Self-care is anything you do to nurture yourself physically, emotionally, or spiritually. It’s not a chore; it’s an activity that refuels you and recharges your batteries. We know that it’s not simply an indulgence (as once was thought), but rather a necessary aspect of your overall health and wellbeing.

Often, if you’ve been living a high stress, self-sacrificial lifestyle, it can be hard to start figuring out what routines might truly relax you. While a simple, passive activity like a spa session certainly counts as self-care, we’ve got three alternate (more intentional) ways to round out your self-care repertoire.

1. Soothing Touch

When a child is crying, how do you soothe their distress? Hugs, kisses, gentle strokes – of course! Research shows that you can apply that same, gentle physical touch to yourself in order to reduce stress. Try placing your hand over your heart and moving it in gentle, slow circles.

2. Burn Your Troubles

Take 10 to 15 minutes each day to write down the things that are bothering you. When you’re finished, burn the list (safely of course!). You may even want to find and use a special urn for this ritual.

3. Social Media Detox

Spend a little time noticing the ways social media might be bringing negative energy into your life. Then address that negativity in a way that makes sense for you. That could mean “unplugging” periodically or even blocking people from your feed who stress you out.