“If your goals aren’t synced with the substance of your heart, then achieving them won’t matter much.” Danielle LaPorte
We know that goal-setting can provide clarity and focus for the year ahead. However, sometimes we choose goals that are unrealistic, causing unnecessary stress and shame when we don’t achieve them.
But what makes a goal unrealistic? Aren’t we supposed to aim high and dream big?
Oftentimes, our goals are unrealistic because they don’t align with our true desires. As a result, we aren’t really motivated by them. And when we aren’t really motivated by them, we consciously, or unconsciously, don’t set ourselves up for success.
Break the pattern this year by setting heart-centred goals!
Close your eyes and picture your life in several years’ time. Imagine the details of potential scenarios and events with as much detail as you can muster. Notice what makes you feel energized, peaceful, curious, fearful, and so on. Journal about the feelings you link with the various possibilities you visualized.
2. Start Small
Create goals based on the most positive possibilities you uncovered through visualization. But ensure that they are measurable, short-term goals, rather than vague and overly ambitious goals.
Research has shown that when you pull off a small task, your brain releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter that fuels motivation. That means those small successes are actually making you much more likely to keep meeting the goals that will, over time, help you to realize your biggest dreams.
3. Write Them Down
Once you have identified a few simple, short-term goals that connect to positive possibilities that truly excite you, it’s time to write them down. Include specific details about when, how, and with whom you will accomplish these goals that reflect your true heart’s desires.